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December 2011

Why Resolutions Don't Work...How to Celebrate Your Successes...Then Set Outcomes not Resolutions

"There is one quality that one must possess to win, and that is definiteness of purpose, the knowledge of what one wants and a burning desire to achieve it."  - Napoleon Hill


Celebrate Your Successes!

As the year comes to a close, I want to pass on one of the most impactful exercises my former business coach, Mark McHale, had me do several years ago.  The purpose of the exercise was to conduct a review of the previous year by writing down every success, win, and positive thing that I experienced - both big and small.  So, I challenge all readers to Celebrate Your Successes

In my experience as a coach and manager, I have observed that most driven and success-minded individuals have a tendency to focus on what they haven't achieved yet.  They are always moving on to the next goal or challenge without stopping, however briefly, to acknowledge the victory or success of the moment. 

So, as you fine-tune your goals and business plan for a successful next year, take some time to look back on the current/previous year with a focus on the positives. 

Grab your journal or some paper or...Use this Celebrate Your Successes PDF:
Download CelebrateYourSuccesses

Just write it all down - stream of consciousness - no matter how seemingly insignificant.  Just write it down.  Once you start writing, you'll be surprised at how much you really have to celebrate!

  • List all your accomplishments, wins, victories, successes in the past year.
  • List all moment of joy and gratitude.
  • What did you do last year that you were really proud of?
  • What do other people in your life have to say about what you did, accomplished, contributed?
  • What did you do last year that moved you toward your goals?
  • What lessons did you gain from any setbacks, challenges or obstacles?
  • How are your going to integrate any learnings in to your future goals and the coming year?


Why Resolutions Don’t Work

I am not a fan of New Year's Resolutions.  Statistics show that most people never keep the resolutions they set for the New Year. 

  • 45% of Americans usually set New Year’s Resolutions; 17% infrequently set resolutions; 38% absolutely never set resolutions.
  • Only 8% of people are always successful in achieving their resolutions. 19% achieve their resolutions every other year.  49% have infrequent success.  24% (one in four people) NEVER succeed and have failed on every resolution every year. That means that 3 out of 4 people almost never succeed.   Reference

The main reason most resolutions don’t work is that they focus on only one area of your life - the DO level. Many of us are living life with the focus on DO-HAVE-BE.  “I will DO this thing.” (Lose weight) “So I can HAVE this other thing” (Self-Esteem) and I can BE this thing. (Confident.)

Most of us are action-oriented, and evaluate ourselves by how much we are doing, producing, and achieving. We have to-do lists, goals, resolutions and lots of "shoulds." We like to place priority on problem solving and accomplishing tasks (do), so that we can gain some sort of outcome (have), and then be something or someone in the world.

The average New Year’s Resolution doesn’t tackle the core of the issue – the “BE” level.

The best method for creating positive changes in your life is to understand and use the BE - DO - HAVE model.  When you begin changing on the BE level of your life, then the DO level and the HAVE level follow more easily.

Rather than focusing first on the action and the "Do," start with who am I and what’s important to me, or the BE.  While it is important to create structure, accountability, and action steps, how often do we take a step back and ask ourselves why we are doing what we are doing?  

You've got to be crystal clear about WHY you want something.  When you are setting your goals make sure to ask yourself the critical question:  Why it is important to you?  Is the goal for you?  Is it your burning desire to achieve it?  Or is it someone else's wish for you? 

How clear we are about our “why” has a huge impact on our levels of commitment, engagement, and satisfaction with the experience. 

A Definite purpose backed by a burning desire (CLARITY) + Taking the appropriate (ACTION) = Your desired (OUTCOME)


Now Set GOALS or OUTCOMES not Resolutions!

The critical steps to achieving your goals:

  1. Identify clear, concise, SMART goals and know your WHY for each of them.
  2. Write them down for all areas of your life (Personal, Financial, Business/Career, Relationships/Family, Spiritual)
  3. Create Action Plans - break the goal down into steps and next actions.  Take action every day!
  4. Measure and track your progress - you can't improve what you don't measure.
  5. Celebrate your successes along the way - make any necessary course corrections.

Related posts on Goal Setting:

What is the intensity of your desire?  Do you possess the persistence necessary to succeed?

How to develop persistence:

  1. Have a definite purpose backed by a burning desire to achieve it.
  2. Create a definite plan, expressed in continuous action.
  3. Cultivate a mind closed tightly to al negative and discouraging influences, including any negative suggestions of relatives, friends and acquaintances.
  4. Develop a friendly alliance with one or more persons who will encourage you to follow through with your plan (a mastermind)

To Improve the Quality of Your Life... All You Need is the....

  • Desire to change
  • Decision to take action
  • Discipline to practice new behaviors
  • Determination to persist until you get results

"Clarity accounts for probably 80% of success and happiness. Lack of clarity is probably more responsible for frustration and underachievement than any other single factor.  Your success in life will be largely determined by how clear you are about what it is you really, really want."  - Brian Tracy


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DJ Earworm Captures the American Pop Music Scene with Creative "Mashups"

One method of capturing one of the themes or feel for a given year is to review the music and artists who either emerged or stayed on the top of the pop charts.  DJ Earworm is a master of the music "Mashup" - basically it's the art of taking many songs and mashing parts of them together to create a new song. 

Earworm has created an annual mashup of the Top 25 most popular songs according to Billboard magazine since 2007.  Here is the 2011 edition entitled "World Go Boom" followed by the previous annual mashups.


From DJ Earworm's blog:

2011 gave us songs of regret and anger, pride and perseverance, and lots of fire.
When someone’s taken everything from you, what do you do?


Adele - Rolling In The Deep
Adele - Someone Like You
Black Eyed Peas - Just Can't Get Enough
Bruno Mars - Grenade
Bruno Mars - The Lazy Song
Britney Spears - Till The World Ends
Cee Lo Green - F* You
Enrique Iglesias - Tonight (I'm Lovin' You)
Foster the People - Pumped Up Kicks
Jennifer Lopez - On The Floor
Jeremih feat. 50 cent - Down On Me
Katy Perry - Firework
Katy Perry - E.T.
Katy Perry - Last Friday Night (T.G.I.F.)
Lady Gaga - Born This Way
LMFAO - Party Rock Anthem
LMFAO - Sexy and I Know It
Lupe Fiasco - The Show Goes On
Maroon 5 - Moves Like Jagger
Nicki Minaj - Super Bass
OneRepublic - Good Life
Pink - Raise Your Glass
Pitbull - Give Me Everything
Rihanna - S&M
Rihanna - We Found Love



In 2010, pop has gone into serious all-out party mode. In 2009 the music was encouraging us to pick ourselves back up after being knocked down again, and to rock out to some great dance music while you’re at it. This year’s music tells us to keep going now that we’re up and having fun. In fact, the fun seems to be in such overdrive that it borders on recklessness. Usher urges us to ‘dance like it’s the last night of your life”, and Katy Perry wants us to “run away and don’t ever look back”. Even the songs that aren’t about parties have parties in their videos, like this year’s entries from Mike Posner and Lady Antebellum.

Ke$ha - Tik Tok
Lady Antebellum - Need You Now
Train - Hey, Soul Sister
Katy Perry Featuring Snoop Dogg - California Gurls
Usher Featuring - OMG
B.O.B. Featuring Hayley Williams - Airplanes
Eminem Featuring Rihanna - Love the Way You Lie
Lady Gaga - Bad Romance
Taio Cruz - Dynamite
Taio Cruz Featuring Ludacris - Break Your Heart
B.O.B. Featuring Bruno Mars - Nothin' On You
Enrique Iglesias Featuring Pitbull - I Like It
Young Money Featuring Lloyd - Bedrock
Jason Derulo - In My Head
Rihanna - Rude Boy
Lady Gaga Featuring Beyonce - Telephone
Katy Perry - Teenage Dream
Bruno Mars - Just the Way You Are
Mike Posner - Cooler Than Me
The Black Eyed Peas - Imma Be
Jay-Z + Alicia Keys - Empire State of Mind
Usher Featuring Pitbull - DJ Got Us Fallin' In Love
Travie McCoy Featuring Bruno Mars - Billionaire
Eminem - Not Afraid
Iyaz - Replay



This year in the charts, so many of the pop songs this year seem to tell the same story: Yeah, we’ve been through a lot, but right now we’re gonna celebrate with music and dance, and it’s gonna be ok. With that spirit in mind, I invite you to…BLAME IT ON THE POP

The Black Eyed Peas - BOOM BOOM POW
Lady Gaga - POKER FACE
Lady Gaga Featuring Colby O'Donis - JUST DANCE
The Black Eyed Peas - I GOTTA FEELING
Taylor Swift - LOVE STORY
Jason Mraz - I'M YOURS
Kanye West - HEARTLESS
The All-American Rejects - GIVES YOU HELL
T.I. Featuring Justin Timberlake - DEAD AND GONE
Kings Of Leon - USE SOMEBODY
Keri Hilson Featuring Kanye West & Ne-Yo - KNOCK YOU DOWN
Jamie Foxx Featuring T-Pain - BLAME IT
T.I. Featuring Rihanna - LIVE YOUR LIFE
Soulja Boy Tell 'em Featuring Sammie - KISS ME THRU THE PHONE
Jay Sean Featuring Lil Wayne - DOWN
Miley Cyrus - THE CLIMB
Beyonce - HALO
Katy Perry - HOT N COLD


Viva La Pop (2008)

This year in the charts, we’ve gone all soft. The songs are sexy and defiant, less macho than in previous years. Accordingly, I’ve selected Coldplay as the instrumental track, giving the whole year a sort of symphonic feel.

Flo Rida Featuring T-Pain - Low
Leona Lewis - Bleeding Love
Alicia Keys - No One
Lil Wayne Featuring Static Major - Lollipop
Timbaland Featuring OneRepublic - Apologize
Jordin Sparks Duet With Chris Brown - No Air
Sara Bareilles - Love Song
Usher Featuring Young Jeezy - Love in This Club
Chris Brown - With You
Chris Brown - Forever
Ray J & Yung Berg - Sexy Can I
Rihanna - Take a Bow
Coldplay - Viva La Vida
Katy Perry - I Kissed a Girl
T.I. - Whatever You Like
Rihanna - Disturbia
Rihanna - Don't Stop the Music
Natasha Bedingfield - Pocketful of Sunshine
Chris Brown Featuring T-Pain - Kiss Kiss
Ne-Yo - Closer
Colbie Caillat - Bubbly
Mariah Carey - Touch My Body
Madonna Featuring Justin Timberlake - 4 Minutes
Pink - So What
Finger Eleven - Paralyzer


United States of Pop (2007)


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How to Setup Your Facebook Timeline

The new Timeline feature on Facebook is now available to everyone and changes dramatically the way your FB Profile displays.  Essentially, it is a reverse chronological display of the details from your FB profile starting with your birthdate including life/work events and the photos, links, likes and status udpates you have made since the day you started posting on Facebook!  Think of it as a digital scrapbook summarizing your life through milestones, events, photos, updates and content you and your friends post to your wall.


Visit my Facebook Timeline

Cover Photo -  You can upload a photo or even create a unique graphic for this area to convey something about yourself, your interests, passion... get creative!  The image size for the cover is 850 px X 315 px.   Your profile picture will remain as an inset.

Check out these creative covers for inspiration: 

10 Facebook Timeline Designs That Will Blow You Away [PICS]

Get Creative With New Facebook Timeline Cover Ideas

Favorite Boxes/Apps - Friends and Photos are fixed but you can choose what other favorite boxes or apps you want to display in the area below the cover photo.

Status Updates - The status box has been enhanced to include posting a life event (relationship, job, new home, new car, hobby travel, etc) and a place tag.



Filling in the Blanks - You can utilize the Life Events tab of the status update box to add milestones in your life that were not already indicated in your original profile.  If you scroll through your timeline you also have the ability to enhance an event by adding a photo and text.  You can quickly access a specific point on your timeline by clicking on the vertical display of dates from your timeline.


Hiding items on the Timeline/Privacy Settings - Control who sees your posts and updates by using the dropdown menu located to the left of the "post" button.  You also have the option to "Hide from Timeline" any post or update.  The Edit/Remove icon allows you to edit the entry, Hide it or Delete the post.  The Feature icon is the star to the left of the pencil icon - by clicking on the "star" you will feature or enlarge the post in your timeline.



Facebook's 800 million members can either wait for a notification to pop up on their screen or go to to get Timeline. Eventually all profiles will switch to the new look. Timeline is also available on mobile devices using and Facebook for Android or iPhone.

Once you activate the Timeline, you have 7 days to review, edit, hide and maybe even delete any entries you don't want visibile in your timeline before it goes live.  You also have the option of publishing it prior to the 7 days. 

Timeline is not currently available for Business Pages and Facebook is not indicating when that will happen.

 More Timeline Resources:


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2011 Year In Review: The Headlines, Trends, Mobile Tech

2011 Highlights, Headlines, Newsmakers - created using Wordle


Reuters Year in Review 2011

Twitter Year in Review

Zeitgeist 2011: Year In Review


Mobile Year in Review 2011   - The year Mobile took over the world


2011 Year In Review Farewell To Those We Lost (Yahoo)


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2011 Pop Song Mashups and Favorite Music Videos

I am a fan of DJ Earworm's Mashups and until the 2011 Mashup is posted... here are some other cool video music mashups to check out highlighting the top of the pop charts for 2011.

Music Mashup of 30 pop songs from 2011 - DJ McFLY

 1) Party Rock Anthem -- LMFAO
2) S&M -- Rihanna
3) Good Feeling -- Flo Rida ft. Avicii
4) Without You -- David Guetta ft. Usher
5) Niggas In Paris -- Jay Z & Kanye West
6) Tonight (I'm Loving You) -- Enrique Iglacious ft. Ludacris
7) On The Floor -- J Lo ft. Pitbull
8) Hey Baby -- T-Pain ft. Pitbull
9) Don't Wanna Go Home -- Jason Derulo
10) Moves Like Jagger -- Maroon 5 ft. Christina Aguilera
11) The Time (Dirty Bit) -- The Black Eyed Peas
12) Till The World Ends -- Britney Spears
13) Till The World Ends (Remix) -- Britney Spears ft. Kesha & Nicki Minaj
14) Give Me Everything Tonight -- Neyo ft. Pitbull
15) You Make Me Feel.... -- Cobra Starship
16) I Wanna Go -- Britney Spears
17) In The Dark - Dev
18) Rolling In The Deep -- Adele
19) Down On Me -- 50 Cent ft. Jeremih
20) Ke$ha -- Blow
21) Ke$ha -- We R Who We R
22) Last Friday Night - Katy Perry
23) Stereo Hearts -- Gym Class Heros ft. Adam Levine
24) Super Bass -- Nicki Minaj
25) We Found Love -- Rihanna
26) Firework -- Katy Perry
27) Born This Way -- Lady Gaga
28) Look At Me Now -- Chris Brown ft. Lil' Wayne & Busta Rhymes
29) Just Can't Get Enough - The Black Eyed Peas
30) Raise Your Glass -- Pink
31) Sexy And I Know It -- LMFAO

2011 Pop Mashup (Pop Danthology 2011) - 50 songs by Daniel Kim

1. Adele - Rolling In The Deep
2. Adele - Someone Like You
3. Alexandra Stan - Mr. Saxobeat
4. Avicii - Levels
5. Bad Meets Evil - Lighters
6. Beyonce - Run The World (Girls)
7. Black Eyed Peas - Just Can't Get Enough
8. Britney Spears - Hold It Against Me
9. Britney Spears - I Wanna Go
10. Britney Spears - Till The World Ends
11. Bruno Mars - It Will Rain
12. Chris Brown - Yeah 3x
13. Chris Brown feat. Lil Wayne, Busta Rhymes - Look At Me Now
14. Cobra Starship feat. Sabi - You Make Me Feel
15. David Guetta feat. Nicki Minaj, Flo Rida - Where Them Girls At
16. David Guetta feat. Taio Cruz, Ludacris - Little Bad Girl
17. David Guetta feat. Usher - Without You
18. Dev - In The Dark
19. Drake - Headlines
20. Enrique Iglesias feat. Ludacris - Tonight (I'm Loving' You)
21. Flo Rida - Good Feeling
22. Foster The People - Pumped Up Kicks
23. Gym Class Heroes feat. Adam Levine - Stereo Hearts
24. Hot Chelle Rae - Tonight Tonight
25. Jason Derulo - Don't Wanna Go Home
26. Jennifer Lopez feat. Pitbull - On The Floor
27. Katy Perry - Last Friday Night (TGIF)
28. Katy Perry - The One That Got Away
29. Katy Perry feat. Kanye West - E.T.
30. Ke$ha - Blow
31. Lady Gaga - Born This Way
32. Lady Gaga - Edge Of Glory
33. Lady Gaga - Judas
34. Lady Gaga - You And I
35. Leona Lewis / Avicii - Collide
36. LMFAO - Sexy And I Know It
37. LMFAO feat. Lauren Bennett, GoonRock - Party Rock Anthem
38. Maroon 5 feat. Christina Aguilera - Moves Like Jagger
39. Martin Solveig & Dragonette - Hello
40. Nicki Minaj - Super Bass
41. Pitbull feat. Ne-Yo, Afrojack, Nayer - Give Me Everything
42. Rihanna - S&M
43. Rihanna - You Da One
44. Rihanna feat. Calvin Harris - We Found Love
45. Sak Noel - Loca People
46. Selena Gomez - Love You Like A Love Song
47. Swedish House Mafia - Save The World
48. T-Pain feat. Wiz Khalifa, Lily Allen - 5 O'Clock
49. Taio Cruz feat. Kylie Minogue - Higher
50. Usher - More (RedOne Jimmy Joker Remix)


Adele - Someone Like You

Never mind, I'll find someone like you
I wish nothing but the best for you too
Don't forget me, I beg
I remember you said,
"Sometimes it lasts in love but sometimes it hurts instead."

Nothing compares
No worries or cares
Regrets and mistakes
They are memories made.
Who would have known how bittersweet this would taste?

 Katy Perry- Last Friday Night (T.G.I.F.)

Pictures of last night
Ended up online
I'm screwed
Oh well
It's a blacked out blur
But I'm pretty sure it ruled


Katy Perry - Firework

Baby, you're a firework
Come on, let your colors burst
Make 'em go "Oh, oh, oh"
You're gonna leave 'em all in awe, awe, awe

You don't have to feel like a waste of space
You're original, cannot be replaced
If you only knew what the future holds
After a hurricane comes a rainbow

Maybe your reason why all the doors are closed
So you could open one that leads you to the perfect road
Like a lightning bolt, your heart will glow
And when it's time, you'll know

You just gotta ignite, the light, and let it shine
Just own the night like the 4th of July

Lady Gaga - Marry the Night

I'm gonna marry the night,
I won't give up on my life,
I'm a warrior queen,
Live passionately, tonight.

I'm gonna marry the dark,
Gonna make love to the stark,
I'm a soldier to my,
Own emptiness, I'm a winner.


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